Help for Step Parents/Plans &
Packages

HOW CAN I HELP?

I work with step parents and bio parents, as individuals or in couples, to solve a wide range of issues that arise within the step family. Through weekly sessions, I can help you create a happier, healthier step family and a calmer, easier home environment. Choose from one of the plans below or choose one of your own.

The Relationship Plan

Are you experiencing issues as a step parent in your relationship with your partner, such as:

  • constant arguments over your step children or parenting
  • conflicting parenting styles
  • feeling resentful, alienated or isolated or dealing with issues of parent guilt
  • communication has completely broken down  – you’ve stopped talking about how you’re feeling or your partner “just doesn’t listen”?
  • considering breaking up or moving out?

Are you wondering if your relationship will survive?

These are all common issues I address when working with step parents and their partners, either together or in individual sessions. Using effective tools and exercises I can help you improve your relationship so you can move forward together rather than pulling in opposite directions. 

The Discipline, House Rules and Consequences Plan

Is your house calm, happy and organised? Is everyone – kids included – contributing to the list of chores and things that need doing? Do your step children treat you with respect?

Or, are you dealing with any of the following:

  • you’re single-handedly working your way through the endless list of things that need doing on a daily basis?
  • your step children’s behaviour is driving you mad? They’re being rude or disrespectful, backchatting, or worse just ignoring you?
  • you’re struggling to get your step children to do everyday chores or to keep up with their homework?
  • you don’t feel fully supported by your partner in establishing good house rules, and you suspect they may be dealing with parent guilt.

Establishing house rules and a set of practical and effective consequences will help you establish good behaviour in your house and encourage your step children to be accountable and take more responsibility.

 I’ll work with you to create house rules and consequences that really work, to suit you and your family. I’ll also share with you effective ways of dealing with issues such as backchatting and disrespect, to create a happier, calmer home.

The New Step Parent Plan

If you’re new to step parenting then it can seem like a very daunting task. You may ask yourself:

  • What if the children don’t like me?
  • What exactly is my role?
  • What are the dos and don’ts of step parenting?
  • How will I know if I’m a good enough step parent?

In weekly sessions I’ll work with you, either individually or with your partner,  to help you adjust to the new family dynamic and find answers to all the questions you may have as a new step parent.  I’ll also help you with any feelings of overwhelm or doubt to help you make the transition more comfortable. We can investigate what your expectations are and how realistic they might be and find ways to help you feel supported by your partner in your new role. 

The Dealing with a Toxic Ex Plan

Is your step family being disrupted by an ex partner (either your partner’s or your own) who seems to spend all of their time causing trouble and chaos?

High conflict or toxic exes can make step family life incredibly stressful and impossible at times, including:

  • the ex ignores custody arrangements, and changes times and dates of visitation often at short notice
  • the ex constantly calls or visits without arranging it with you or your partner
  • you feel your personal boundaries are being constantly violated by the ex
  • the ex wants to be involved in how you run your household or spend time with your step children.
  • The ex seems to thrive on conflict – there’s always some big drama going on with them.

Dealing with a toxic or high conflict ex can have a serious negative effect on your relationship and the step family as a whole. 

I can help you find successful ways of dealing with a toxic ex so he or she does not negatively impact your family.

I will work with you to create strong personal boundaries and set effective limits to help create a calmer, happier step family life.

In addition to the above, I offer custom plans tailored to your unique needs.  Please contact me to discuss your requirements. 

martin@martinlockcoaching.com